Yoni is the Sanskrit name for female genitalia.
It also means the sacred temple, the gateway to the Universe and the Source.
When we hear people speak about feminine empowerment, there are so many concepts around it, but not many people speak about the relationship of a woman to her vulva, her vagina, her yoni.
Yet, that’s where the feminine empowerment should start.
When we activate the yoni and our connection to her, we start owning our power. We start accessing our intuition…
There are many ways to start building this connection:
- Placing your hands over the vulva and directing your breath into her
- Look at her in the mirror, then draw her or even take a picture
- Pelvic shaking, belly dancing and hula hooping
- Ovarian breathing
- Massage her and learn yoni reflexology (with your fingers or a yoni wand)
- Practice with the yoni eggToday I want to tell you a bit more about one of the most powers feminine practices – the yoni egg.
The stone egg practice to strengthen the vagina emerged in ancient China. For a long time it was a secret practice, only available for the members of the royal family. Since ancient times these practices have been used for improving the physical and spiritual health of a woman.
These eggs are often called yoni eggs.
The egg is an amazing tool that helps tone the lower abdomen and strengthen the muscles of the pelvic and urogenital diaphragms, which serve as a floor for all our vital organs. When these muscles are strong they prevent leakage of our vital life force and sexual energy and help us to keep it under control.
Practice with the yoni egg will also help with:
- Increasing perception of your yoni, control over the vaginal muscles;
- Awakening your creative energy, passion and libido;
- Becoming A LOT more orgasmic;
- Gaining control of the perineum and all groups of pelvic floor muscles;
- Giving a lot of pleasure to your man and helping him with ejaculation control;
- Harmonizing your emotions and healing your relationship to intimacy and sexuality;
- Reducing PMS, menstrual cramps, breast discomfort;
- Reducing menopausal symptoms, by increasing vaginal lubrication and balancing estrogen levels;
- Overcoming traumatic experiences of sexual abuse.
Inside the vaginal canal there are reflexology points which connect to the heart, lungs, spleen, liver and kidney. By using the Jade Egg, these points are stimulated, increasing their functions, which works in a similar way to acupuncture.
It is possible to get extreme with the use of the yoni egg. In fact too much practice or too much intensity focused on creating more tone can actually have the opposite of the desired effect of more ‘vaginal tightness’.
We need to understand how to use the jade egg properly. If we over-stress the muscles, we can create too much tension which can lead to atrophy and/or impede our delicate pleasure pathways and diminish or prevent us from experiencing our full spectrum of pleasure. At the same time only inserting your yoni egg once in a while before you go to sleep won’t do much.
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In cases of sexual trauma you could spend years talking about it, but it won’t shift tissues where the trauma is stored. Consciously using a yoni egg can be an effective tool both for changing the pattern of the cellular memory and assisting in regaining a healthy balance in the sensual tissues. Our traumas hold within them a doorway into our most potent gifts, as very often we have blockages in the areas that we are most powerful.
This is where the link between our body and emotions/mind comes in.
Although for a long time people have been trying to cut off the lower half and life from the belly button up, we are fundamentally psycho-sexual beings—our psyche/mind/emotions is deeply intertwined with our sexuality — one cannot exist without the other.
Many women find it very interesting that we are not supposed to have any pain in the yoni. Meaning that if pain is there – in most cases it does not have physical causes. Our vaginas can give birth to a baby – imagine the size of a new born baby. And the pain that a woman is experiencing while giving birth has nothing to do with the vagina. The pain has to do with contractions or slight movement of the bones, but it is not the vagina that hurts.
Therefore, most of the pain in the yoni is psychosomatic and it has to do with repressed emotions or beliefs about sexuality. So pay attention to these and bring loving awareness to your yoni. By releasing the localized pain, something will start shifting on the emotional level too.
THE POWER OF JADE
Yoni eggs were traditionally made of jade. Jade has a high vibration and is a very balancing stone. Because of its powerful properties, in China they call it the semen of Dragon. On the market you may also find yoni eggs made of rose quartz, obsidian, wood, onyx and many other materials. My first recommendation is always Jade. It makes such a difference to practice with a good quality egg because it has some amazing properties of its own that will enrich your practice and results. Every time I show my students my jade egg they want to have the same one; many women who have some energetic awareness will notice the beautiful vibrations of a good quality jade egg. Click here to order.
Yoni eggs come in a variety of sizes. It’s great to try eggs of various sizes. I have a few of them and see a lot of benefits of going through phases of working with smaller and larger eggs. But actually the medium size of the egg is a perfect fit for almost all yonis, and you can have only one egg.
What really counts is that you actually practice with it.
IF YOU DON’T FEEL YOUR EGG
Don’t worry, it’s completely natural in the beginning. Continue the practice and observe positions or exercises in which you feel at least something. With time your perception will increase. If after a month of regular practice you don’t notice any improvement – go for a larger egg.
As a rule of thumb: start slow.
In the beginning it is not advisable to keep the egg inside for longer than an average of 1 hour. Some women experience cramping in the lower belly or ovaries. If this happens – gently remove the egg and observe what is happening to your energy. Some emotions might be stirred up – observe and journal them if you choose.
The best way to start the practice is by giving yourself a loving breast massage. There are a lot of Taoist techniques of breast massage, and also you can simply caress your breasts and fill them with your love in whichever way you like. This is great because it will lubricate your yoni before you insert the egg.
STRING THE EGG
If your egg is drilled it gives you an option to string it. For that you can use our organic silk yoni egg string here. Make sure to use a new one every time you use the egg.
You don’t have to string it, but if you have concerns like: “what if my egg gets lost somewhere in the depth of my vagina” – the string is a perfect solution. This concern is not at all unusual. If you are one of the concerned ones – don’t worry, I promise you won’t lose it. The cervix (at the top of the uterus) is way too tight to let anything enter it.
Another reason to string the egg is that there are some amazing advanced practices you can do with it, such as attaching weight to the string and doing some yoni weight lifting.
Once you’ve stringed your egg, lie down on your back and place the egg on the lower belly – it’s a nice way to introduce your egg to the body and it will also make the egg warm. Take this time to breathe deeply all the way down to your yoni, feeling into any tense areas in your body, softening them with your breath.
One you feel that you are ready to insert the egg, place it with the larger end next to the entrance of your vagina and start moving the egg in slow circles, slowly letting the egg go inside. Always insert the egg by placing the larger end of it inside the inner labia.
Another option is to start squeezing and relaxing your yoni, you will feel how a suction is being created and the egg is slowly being sucked in.
There are many exercises that you can do with the egg, I go deep into in my my online course Activated Woman
Some great things you can do with your yoni egg:
- Practice yoga or meditation with it. Your egg will make a fantastic complement to a yoga or meditation practice. From time to time squeeze your egg, but even when you don’t you might observe interesting results.
- Bellydance with it. You will love it! And no one else will know In my classes I was always adding at least a little bit of bellydance. The circular isolation movements of the abdomen and hips simultaneously train the muscles of the vagina. And when the yoni egg is being used this is even more enhanced. Try movements like hip slides, hip circles, figure eight, vertical figure eight and shimmies!
- Hula hoop with it. This works really well too, give it a go.
Be mindful of the body’s needs – keep the egg in for as long as you are comfortable, but not longer than an hour in the beginning.
REMOVING THE EGG
Lie down and relax, push out a little – sometimes this is enough. If you have stringed your egg then that’s the time to use it – gently pull the string.
If you didn’t string your egg and it didn’t come out with the previous method move into a squat and push the egg out.
If it still didn’t work – don’t panic, just assist yourself with your fingers. It will come out for sure. I promise!
After that take a moment to relax and observe what’s changed in your energy. Could be a good idea to finish with a short breast massage to bring the energy to the heart, or breathing along the micro-cosmic orbit could also be great.